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Wednesday, July 20, 2011

我心中的巨人,妈妈和姑姑

妈妈和姑姑是我心目中永不厌倦的巨人,她们像一棵大树,从我出生到现在一路为我挡风遮雨。可是现在大树不再根深蒂固,大树经历狂风暴雨的侵袭,摇摇欲坠。

我和姑姑的感情并非一般,从我有记忆开始我和姑姑睡同一张床,打同一个地铺,甚至一起睡在小小的帆布床。童年,青少年时期的记忆许多画面都填满了姑姑的身影。到后来结婚生子每个周末我还是回去探望姑姑,特别是近来几乎每个周末我都和老公带着孩子接姑姑放工然后一起出去走走。

姑姑不只是我的一位长辈,她还是我的良师益友,我倾诉的对象,我的精神支柱。姑姑单身,她把一生奉献给家里,待我们这些侄儿侄女如她的亲生儿女。她对自己省吃俭用,一分一毫都不浪费,但是她却可以无条件的拿出自己的积蓄(说难听一点那是她的棺材本)来帮助有需要的家人。

姑姑无病无痛身体非常硬朗,这么一个健康活跃的好人,却因一场意外现在躺在ICU病房,前路不明。虽然暂时没有生命危险,但却还是岌岌可危,因为连医生也无法预测接下来的状况。我无法释怀,为什么要让姑姑这么一个好人承受这么大的痛苦,为什么非得给她这样一个凄凉的晚年?脸部,手脚和背部严重烧伤。此时此刻,姑姑还是那么的坚强,问她痛不痛,她竟然摇头。姑姑,就是这样一个人。


妈妈是典型的传统女性,老公孩子排第一。妈妈非常刻苦耐劳,年轻时吃了不少苦,除了十多年前检验出高血压,吃了药后一路来血压也控制得很好,基本上无病无痛连伤风感冒都少见,爸爸常常开玩笑说妈妈像头牛。听爸爸说大约二十几年前妈妈动手术割去颈部的一颗肿瘤,手术隔天就如常出外工作。眼见到了含饴弄孙的年龄,身体却出现了大状况。

上个星期姑姑发生事情时正是医生告诉我他不排除妈妈患上Myeloma(癌症)的可能性,化验的结果是“好”消息,妈妈没有Myeloma,但却迎来一头可怕的狼,系统性红斑狼疮 (SLE),同样是不治之症。现在医院就等多一项验血报告来确定,但是另一位肾脏专家根据现有的报告已向我确定是SLE,而且已经危及肾脏。妈妈的健康每况愈下,脸色也一天比一天差,但她却坚持说她精神没差,也不觉得疲累,只担心不能照顾孙子。看到本来壮如牛的妈妈变成这样,我的心真的很痛。为什么就不能让幸苦了一辈子的妈妈有个健康快乐的晚年,让她享享清福?

我感到非常无助,因为我能做的就只有那么多,另一边厢,我却随时要自我催眠,一定要保持乐观,一定要坚强,那么我才会有力量陪他们前进。与此同时,这段奔波的日子我发现我忽略了Lucius,甚至对他感到不耐烦,作为母亲我很自责也很内疚。

上一篇博文收到很多关心的留言,在这里谢谢要大家的关心和问候,虽然素未谋面,但从字里行间我深深的感受到你们真挚的心意,让我心里暖暖的。谢谢。

27 comments:

  1. 我想我可以理解你的无助,亲人接连不断地出现状况,的确是很神伤的事.
    你的妈妈和姑姑都是如此坚强不屈的人,你更应该要坚强喔,她们都需要你的支持:)
    加油,支持你,祝福你~

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  2. 我父亲曾经生病过,我可以理解你的心情。。
    这时候的你一定要坚强,凡是往好的一面想。。
    加油,祝福你。。。。

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  3. 确实一时之间很难消化这么多的事。是的如鲸鱼说的,妈妈和姑姑都是坚强不屈的巨人,你更应该要坚强。给她们支持。还有Lucius,他多么需要你的耐心和爱心的照顾。加油吧!朋友。祝福你们一家很快回到和乐融融的时刻。

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  4. Angel,
    I can understand how it feels when it happens to your loved ones. Whatever it is, you must remain string for yourself and your family. I really hope there will be a turn for the better. Your mum and auntie's attitude is so positive, I'm sure there'll be miracles for them. Don't give up hope! Take care.

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  5. 你一定要乐观,这样才可以赶走不好的意念,那什么事都会变成好的。不要担心,要开心。他们是你的巨人,你也是他们的支柱。

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  7. Angel, you must stay strong and enough rest. Because now you are their support, their pillar. Your hubby and son need you, your aunt and your mum need you the more. Hugs hugs.

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  8. 希望你能堅強因為這樣你才可以支持家人。加油! 加油!

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  9. 但愿你的姑姑及妈妈早日康复!你也必须坚强及好好照顾自已,这样你才可以好好照顾及支持她俩!加油!

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  10. 我明白你的感受,因为你的这些无助和难过我也曾经历过.无论如何希望你一直坚强走下去,曙光会在前方等着.加油!!

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  11. 娟,你要咬紧牙关,积极乐观地面对现在的处境。 相信阳光总在风雨后,会在这儿为你和家人祷告。 祝福你们!

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  12. 我不能帮你什么,只希望你会坚强,好好照顾自己。加油!保持乐观心情!明天会更好!

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  13. 希望你能保持乐观面对这一切,我也曾经历过家人患癌的处境,相同的感到无助和难过.现在轮到你当她们的巨人。加油!

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  14. 你提醒了我要好好珍惜家人。我希望你妈妈能恢复健康,你姑姑能渡过危险,你也要加油!

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  15. If can, pls try on E.Excel's products. I am not their member, but one of my friend also have this SLE, she consume this direct sales product and her condition is stable now. But, the products is quite expensive.
    Besides this, pls consult a reliable doctor. My fren's condition did not go any better when she go to government hospital.
    Hope your mom will get well soon.

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  16. Hi YY,

    Can you recommend your friend's doctor? You mean government hospital in Singaoore?

    As I do not have your contact, can you drop me an email? My email can be seen in my profile.

    Thank you.

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  17. 有了坚强和乐观,
    才可以支持着家人走更远的路。

    祝福你~

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  18. 祝福你,希望你能坚强。。。

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  19. Hi there.
    Lupus nephritis is among the more serious complications of SLE and usually aggressive treatment is required before significant or permanent damage to the kidney. So please follow the nephrologist’s advice and start the proper medical evaluation and treatment plan as soon as possible to bring the symptoms and the disease under control.

    Each person with SLE is different. What is good for others may not good for everyone. Remember there is no special diet or remedy that can cure SLE, however, most people could live a normal lifespan as long as they continue to receive proper treatment.

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  20. feel very touched when reading this....jia you...

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  21. I undertstand what you are going through as I had close relatives that were ill too. Be strong and positive.

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  22. 愿上帝的平安与妳们全家同在。祝福妳!

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  23. Hi Just come across your blog. Sorry to hear about your mum and auntie. You need to be strong and positive. Whenever I feel down I think of my son that's always cheer me up.

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  24. 加油!你一定要撑下去!正面思考,一定会有好的结果。祝福你和你的家人!

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  25. 祝福您的妈妈和姑姑早日康复。您也要照顾好自己。加油,angel..

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  26. Hope your mom and your auntie is ok by now.

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